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SAN  DIEGO 


15995  " 


WIDOW'S   WISDOM 


Copyright,  1909 
BY  H.  M.  CA LOWELL  Co. 


Published  simultaneously  in  the  United  States, 
Great  Britain,  Canada  amlBritith  Pottettion* 


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THE  COLONIAL  PRESS: 
C.  H.  Slmondi  A  Co.,  Boiton,  USA. 


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15  a^  sli'i?j  (9  rts  Amiable 


It  is  a  good  thing  to  be  able 
to  face  life  with  a  certain  gay 
philosophy  —  it  helps  take  the 
sting  out  of  the  hard  things  and 
gives  an  added  zest 
to  the  good  things. 
It  is  more  worth  while 
to  discover  a  new  joy 
or  a  new  beauty  in 
life  than  to  master  a 
science  or  discover  a 
planet. 


When  we  have  once  loved  deeply  there  is 
no  longer  that  in  our  hearts  which  makes  it 
possible  or  desirable  to  love  again. 


Sometimes  a  woman's  reputation  for  virtue 
is  merely  a  matter  of  her  having  been  discreet. 


It  is  absurd  to  talk  of  making  men  and  women 
equal  —  it  is  not  in  nature  and  they  can  never 
be  made  so;  women  are  as  infinitely  above  men 
in  some  things  as  men  are  above  women  in 
others. 

H^re 

They  who  have  not  shed  tears  have  not  lived. 


Very  little  credit  is  due  the  woman  who  re- 
mains virtuous  who  has  never  had  temptations 
or  the  opportunities  for  temptations.  The  one 
who  deserves  the  crown  is  she  who  resists  the 
besieging  of  temptations  from  without  and 
within. 

H 

Even  a  stupid  woman  —  when  she  is  in  love 
develops  cunning,  cleverness  and  wit,  and  grows 
in  actual  beauty. 

10 


It  is  all  right  to  expect 
joy  in  the  next  world  - 
but  a  better  thing  is  to 
demand  it  in  this  and  to  go 
about  making  your  part  of 
it  at  once. 


ii 


Many  men  think  that  flattery  is  the  only 
means  by  which  to  win  a  woman;  when,  on 
the  contrary,  it  is  appreciation  and  understand- 
ing that  will  break  down  the  barriers  to  any 
woman's  heart. 


A  woman  often  falls  in  love  with  a  man  for 
no  other  reason  than  because  he  loves  her. 


Remember  man  does  not  value  that  which 
he  wins  too  easily 

B 

If  it  is  a  pretty  woman  they  call  it  tempera- 
ment, if  a  homely  one  it's  a  nasty  disposition. 

D 

Never  think  you  will  make  a  man  admire 
your  rival  less  by  criticising  her.  Nothing 
drives  him  to  her  quicker,  or  away  from  you. 
On  the  contrary,  praise  her  —  admire  her  — 
until  he  grows  sick  of  the  sound  of  her  virtues. 

H 

It  is  folly  to  waste  energy  regretting  anything. 
Let  the  past  go!  Use  each  experience  as  a 
stepping  stone. 

12 


Guard  your  illusions,  they  are  what  keep 
life  sweet.  Don't  imagine  there  is  no  delicious 
fruit  because  one  poor  little  apple  is  green  and 
sour! 


A  woman  can  only  love  a  man  whom  she 
believes  strong  and  great  and  wise  and  powerful; 
lie  must  be  master  or  she  secretly  despises  him; 
he  must  be  strong  enough  to  crush  her  to  dust 
and  tender  enough  to  melt  at  a  tear. 

B 

Don't  take  anything  too  seriously;  not  life 
nor  love  nor  even  yourself.  As  long  as  you 
can  laugh,  you  control  the  situation;  when  you 
can  no  longer  do  that,  some  one  else  is  laughing. 

B 

That  woman  is  a  fool  who  says  she  can  win 
any  man  she  chooses.  But  she  is  doubly  that 
who,  after  having  really  won  a  man's  love,  does 
not  make  herself  clever  enough  to  keep  it. 

B 

More  men  have  been  captivated  by  a  happy, 
cheerful  disposition  than  ever  were  by  all  the 
learning  in  the  colleges. 


Men  think  women  fools  because  they  believe 
in  man's  fidelity;  while  all  women  know  they 
are  forced  to  believe,  to  defend  their  brief  day's 
happiness.  They  must  pretend,  even  to  their 
own  hearts,  to  save  their  breaking. 
M 


\ 


It  is  not  wise 
to  be  always  de- 
manding   vows 
and    promises  of 
It  is  his  nature  to 
hate  being  bound;  usually  if 
the  idea  were  not  constantly 
presented  to  him  he  would  not 
be    glimpsing    his    Delectable 
Mountain  in    the    distance  — 
but  at  his  own  door  step  and 
would  stay  content  beside  it. 


Talent  is  an  asset  of  but  little  value  unless 
accompanied  by  character. 

D 

How  often  the  thing  we  strive  for  with  all 
our  heart  and  soul  and  brain  we  find  after  all 
to  be  Dead  Sea  Fruit,  as  it  crumbles  under  our 
touch. 

a 

Have  you  not  noticed  that  women  who  abuse 
men  are  always  those  whom  men  have  not 
found  attractive?  She  confesses  to  her  own 
lack  of  power  to  please. 

BB 

In  every  woman's  heart  there  is  a  Holy  of 
Holies  that  is  kept  for  ever  closed  except  to  the 
One,  and  even  that  One  often  fails  to  discover 
the  exquisite  treasures  that  lie  buried  under  the 
disguising  cloak  of  a  self -depreciating  nature. 

D 

Every  woman  must  go  through  her  Gethsem- 
ane  alone. 

IB 

The  most  overworked  word  in  the  language 
is  "  luck  "  and  in  spite  of  the  fact  that  there 
isn't  any  such  thing. 

16 


Nothing  is  easier  than  to  have 
your  own  way  if  you  only  let  a 
man  think  he  is  having  his.  No 
man  likes  to  be  managed  —  but  all 
men  can  be  if  you  don't  let  them 
suspect  it. 


J 


A  woman  who  pretends  to  laugh  at  love  is 
like  a  boy  who  whistles  to  keep  up  his  courage 
when  he  walks  alone  at  night,  in  the  dark. 


18 


To  continue  love  in  marriage 
requires  genius,  a  well  developed 
sense  of  humour  and  a  philosophic 
turn  of  mind. 


A  fault  committed  for  us  we  condone  —  but 
if  against  us  —  we  bitterly  condemn. 

H 

Much  of  the  milk  of  human  kindness  has  be- 
come a  very  thin,  watery  looking  article  that 
would  not  nourish  one  starving  infant  impulse  of 
human  charity. 

a 

Why  does  a  man  who  has  been  badly  treated 
by  one  woman  seek  to  be  revenged  by  calling 
all  women  bad  ? 

U 

A  man  does  not  love  a  woman  for  being  a 
saint  and  possessing  all  the  virtues;  he  finds 
her  much  more  fascinating  if  she  is  a  charming 
blend  of  wisdom  and  folly,  saintliness  and 
wickedness,  constancy  and  fickleness. 

D 

Women  are  less  capable  of  friendship  than 
men,  but  they  are  more  capable  of  love. 

a 

The  woman  who  regrets  she  is  not  a  man  has 
failed  to  realize  what  a  powerful  empire  she 
holds  sway  over;  and  how  many  delights  and 
advantages  her  position  has. 

20 


A  woman  is  always  more  in 
love  with  love  than  with  her 
lover.  It  is  her  idea  of  him, 
not  the  man  himself  that  she 
adores.  And  so  it  often  occurs 
that  in  absence  her  love  grows 
deeper  and  stronger  for  she 
remembers  him  not  as  he  is  but 
as  she  imagines  him. 


A  man  who  would  rather  see  his  loved  one 
dead  than  unfaithful,  does  not  love  that  one 
as  much  as  he  loves  himself. 


There  would  be  few  marriages  declared  failures 
if  both  men  and  women  would  make  half  the 
effort  to  appear  attractive,  clever  and  amiable 
after  marriage  that  they  did  before. 


What  makes  women  think  so  well  of  love  is 
that  it  hides  their  defects  in  the  eyes  of  men. 

m 

Have  an  interest  in  life,  begin  today.  Too 
many  live  in  the  yesterdays  and  tomorrows  and 
their  only  accumulation  is  a  choice  assortment 
of  regrets. 

09 

Every  man  dislikes  to  have  the  woman  with 
whom  he  appears  in  public  attract  attention 
by  her  manner,  voice  or  any  eccentricity. 

m 

Do  not  fear  a  quarrel  with  your  lover,  if  not 
too  frequent;    it  will  add  variety  and,  if  you 
are  observant,  you  may  learn  many  things  - 
besides.  —  a  shower  always  sweetens  the  air. 
22 


Women  are  often  blamed  for 
inconsistency  and   fickleness  by 
men  whom  nothing  in  the  world 
would    bore     like    unvarying 
monotony. 


23 


There  never  was  a  man  so  frigid,  austere  and 
hard  hearted  that  he  could  not  be  moved  by  a 
woman's  love,  tenderness  and  petting. 


s. 

A    short    absence    quickens    love  —  a    long 
absence  kills  it. 


Place  most  confidence  in  the  lover  who  has 
most  difficulty  in  telling  his  love. 


People  are  masters  of  servants  in  proportion 
to  their  self-control. 

oa 

In  men's  lives  there  is  a  period  (when  they  are 
very  young)  when  they  believe  no  woman  can 
resist  them.  As  a  rule  men  are  about  forty 
before  they  begin  to  be  really  interesting. 


When  you  are  in  love  you  deserve  no  credit 
for  being  faithful.  Faithfulness  becomes  a 
virtue  only  when  it  becomes  a  duty. 

a 

Matrimony  is  a  science  and  will  only  work  out 
a  success  when  thoroughly  understood. 
24 


A  woman  will  always  forgive  an  offence  from 
a  man  who  pleads  as  his  excuse,  his  uncon- 
trollable love  for  her. 


A  woman  who  finds  she  has  worshipped  an 
idol  of  clay  should  not  conclude  that  her  expe- 
rience is  wholly  bitter  —  for  she  has  known 
the  sweetness  and  ecstasy  of  loving,  which  is 
always  greater  than  that  of  being  loved. 

ID 

You  will  never  have  power  until  you  have 
known,  and  are  entirely  free,  from  the  power  of 
another ;  then  you  have  come  into  your  strength 
and  have  only  yourself  to  blame  if  it  does  not 
bring  you  compensation. 


Do  not  try  to  be  perfect.     If  you  should  suc- 
ceed you  would  become  an  insufferable  bore. 


Beware  of  the  person  who  is  always  enumer- 
ating their  virtues  to  you.  They  never  pos- 
sess the  qualities  they  boast  of. 


The  two  most  important  things  that  a  man 
should  look  for  in  selecting  a  wife  are  —  a  sense 
of  humour  and  the  gift  of  sympathy. 

BB 

Women  are  often  more  attracted  by  audacity 
than  by  sincerity. 

26 


A  woman  who  de- 
clares that  real  love 
comes  but  once  in  life 
has  had  limited  oppor- 
tunities —  and  more 
certainly,  limited  at- 
tractions. 


27 


Every  woman  who  wishes  to  keep  her  hus- 
band should  have  a  well  filled  storeroom  where- 
from,  at  demand,  she  can  draw  tact,  sympathy, 
patience,  love,  flattery,  coquetry  —  and  pray 
for  the  gift  to  know  when  to  be  silent. 

•H 

All  women  should  have  some  gentlemanly 
qualities  as  well  as  womanly  ones  —  if  their 
characters  are  to  be  wholly  admirable. 


Most  often  the  man  who  speaks  ill  of  women 
is  not  the  only  one  who  has  been  badly  treated 
by  them  —  but  the  one  who  has  treated  them 
badly. 

na 

Beware  of  a  poetical  lover  or  a  brilliant  lover 
-  the   poetical   one   is  apt   to  be   fickle  —  the 
brilliant  one  insincere. 

u 

Remember,  there  is  no  man  however  stony  and 
crabbed  his  nature,  but  likes  to  be  praised  and 
loved  and  petted. 

H 

Love  is  not  always  the  basis  of  the  happiest 
marriages.  Friendship  has  sometimes  proven 
a  firmer  foundation. 

28 


The    experience   that    does    not 
make  us  better  makes  us  worse. 


Don't  worry  about  the  wickedness  and  the 

degeneracy  of   the  world  —  it  isn't   your  world 

—  it  will  go  on  just  the  same  whether  you  like 

it  or  not,  whether  you  live  or  die.     Just  watch 

the  play  and  be  as  happy  as  you  can. 


Man  is  by  nature  inconstant;  do  not  alarm 
him  by  demanding  that  he  promise  to  love  you 
for  ever  —  laugh  and  say  —  "  only  until  to- 
morrow "  —  and  the  tomorrow  when  he  wants 
his  release  is  not  apt  to  come. 

H 

There  is  much  moaning  because  husbands 
do  not  remain  faithful  lovers  —  and  it  is  usually 
because  as  wives,  women  forget  to  be  sweet- 
hearts, too. 

u 

With  man,  advancing  years  renders  him 
interesting  and  attractive;  with  woman,  it  is 
the  knell  of  all  her  hopes  and  Joy  of  Life. 

BD 

Don't  place  too  much  faith  in  the  possibilities 
of  love  in  a  cottage.  The  mental  and  physical 
activity  necessary  to  make  both  ends  meet, 
is  apt  to  make  the  little  god  Love,  limp,  weeping, 
away. 

3° 


Avoid  perfect  people 
and  angels  of  all  sorts 
—  they  are  very  dull. 


Eternal  vigilance  is  the  price  you  must  pay 
for  love  and  happiness.  Do  not  imagine  be- 
cause you  have  won  love  you  cannot  lose  it. 
It  is  easy  to  win  and  the  hardest  thing  in  the 
world  to  keep.  Remember,  other  women  laugh 
at  you  for  bemoaning  your  fate  for  having  lost 
something  you  could  easily  have  kept. 


You  will  find  that  which  you  look  for  in  this 
world  —  whether  it  is  virtue  or  wickedness. 


Women  pretend  to  be  furious  because  men 
pursue  them;  yet  are  they  not  always  saying 
—  "  Catch  me  if  you  can?  " 


Tell  a  woman  she  is  the  most  fascinating  and 
irresistible  one  you  have  ever  met,  and  she  is 
yours. 

a 

First  love  is  sweet  and  they  say  nothing  after 
is  ever  quite  the  same;  which  may  be  true, 
but  much  better  —  as  substance  is  to  the  shadow. 

IB 

A  suspicious  person  is  one  that  should  be 
watched. 

32 


It  is  wasted  time 
to  reason  with  your 
heart.  If  your  head 
rules  it  was  never 
really  love.  If  your 
heart  rules,  it  was 
love  and  your  head 
could  never  have 
helped  it. 


33 


Don't  let  it  break  your  heart  when  you  find 
the  man  you  thought  a  little  candy  George 
Washington  is  in  reality  a  wooden  headed 
Ananias  —  they  are  all  like  that. 


The  person  who  has  never  made  a  fool  of  him- 
self over  some  one  has  missed  a  good  deal  in 
life. 

The  Joy  of  Life  was  meant  for  ycu.  If  you 
have  missed  it,  be  sure  it  is  waiting  for  ycu 
some  where.  Sweep  and  garnish  and  fill  with 
sweet  lavender  a  dwelling  place  for  Happiness. 
Banish  bitterness  and  despair,  believe  in  people, 
most  of  all  in  yourself.  Put  on  your  helnet 
which,  as  you  are  a  woman,  is  a  crown  of  roses, 
burnish  the  sword  and  shield  that  Mother  Eve 
bequeathed  you  —  go  forth  —  and  bring  it  in 
laughing  surrender  to  your  feet. 


Women  do  not  lack  ability,  they  lack  the  power 
of  concentration  and  perseverance. 

BB 

Falling  in  love  is  a  matter  of  propinquity, 
almost  any  man  could  marry  any  money,  given 
propitious  opportunity. 

34 


It  is  only  when 
your  heart  has  lived 
its  life  that  you  are 
capable  of  using  and 
profiting  by  your 
powers  of  observa- 


tion. As  long  as  you 
a  heart  it  will  keep 
eyes  blindfolded. 


35 


Each  new  experience  may  mean  lost  illu- 
sions; but  you  can  make  it  mean  also  a  fuller 
capacity  for  meeting  life's  problems. 


Women  are  very  much  given  to  speaking  the 
truth,  but  not  the  whole  truth. 

B) 

Most  men  make  a  woman  either  a  drudge  or 
a  plaything  —  rarely  an  equal  and  a  comrade. 

ffl 

Be  a  philosopher!  Don't  let  the  hard  things 
of  life  hurt  too  much!  Make  every  experience 
add  to  your  wisdom  and  increase  your  capacity 
for  happiness. 


Men  who  think  women  are  angels  do  not 
know  them  well;  but  men  who  think  them 
devils,  do  not  know  them  at  all. 

H 

It  is  far  better  to  lose  the  respect  of  all  the 
world  than  your  own  self-respect. 

TVT 

One's    success    is    usually    more    accurately 
measured  by  one's  enemies  than  by  one's  friends. 
36 


Being  rich  does  not  lie  so  much  in  what  you 
actually  possess,  as  in  what  you  can  do  with- 
out. 


37 


There  is  for  each  of  us,  somewhere  awaiting, 
a  love  that  is  perfect.  We  shall  know  —  shall 
be  sure  when  we  have  found  it. 

ffl 

It  is  a  greater  test  of  character  to  stand  success 
well  than  to  stand  failure  well. 


Stagnation  is  often  induced  by  the  habit  of 
repression. 

avi 

It  seems  to  be  only  the  busy  people  in  this 
world  who  ever  find  time  to  do  things.  They  are 
the  ones  who  always  assume  the  extra  burdens 
most  willingly. 

H 

Idleness  is  the  most  exhaustive  of  all  employ- 
ments. Real  rest  is  to  be  found  in  a  change  of 
activity,  not  a  cessation. 

U 

We  never  appreciate  the  value  of  a  thing  that 
is  gained  without  the  expenditure  of  effort  — 
either  mental  or  physical. 

na 

The  soul  cannot  be  developed  except  through 
great  love. 

38 


A  woman's  love  takes  the  form  of  worship, 
and  for  her  there  is  no  greater  pain  than  that  she 
suffers  when  she  knows  she  must  tear  down 
the  altars  she  has  builded  in  her  heart  —  where 
she  has  burned  incense  to  one  unworthy. 


The  much  lauded  first  love  is  usually  but  a 
poor  weak  article  compared  with  last  love. 
One's  capacity  increases  with  experience. 

Nl 

The  man  or  woman,  who,  day  after  day,  year 
after  year,  faces  the  long  drawn  out  agony  of 
a  misfit  marriage  performs  a  feat  of  courage 
incomparably  greater  than  the  hero  who  faces 
battle  or  sudden  death. 

u 

You  will  never  regret  putting  the  best  meaning 
on  the  act  of  others;  nor  will  you  be  sorry  for 
stopping  your  ears  to  gossip  and  being  generous 
to  your  enemies. 

H 

One  successful  assault  weakens  our  position 
and  gives  a  foothold  to  our  assailant  from  which 
to  make  another  and  yet  more  successful  assault. 

HI 

It  requires  as  much  effort  to  hold  as  to  acquire  ; 
therefore,  the  person  into  whose  lap  Fortune 
flings  her  gifts,  is  rarely  able  to  keep  them. 


It  isn't   opportunities   that  we   lack   in  this 
world  ;  but  the  ability  to  see  them. 
40 


Don't  be  too  sorry 
for  yourself  or  im- 
agine life  is  over  be- 
cause you  have  a 
heartache.  It  is  im- 
possible to  know  real 
joy  until  you  have 
known  real  pain. 


It  is  a  mistake  to  be  always  looking  so  far 
ahead  that  you  cannot  see  what  is  going  on  now. 

D 

It  is  difficult  to  say  which  makes  the  greater 
mistake ;  the  one  who  believes  everything  or  the 
one  who  believes  nothing. 


Love  is  well  enough  when  it  is  young  —  a 
tender  flexible  thing  that  can  be  played  with 
or  put  aside  when  you  grow  weary  of  its  de- 
mands and  importunities;  but  when  it  has 
grown  strong  and  powerful  it  is  a  terrible  thing. 
You  can  no  longer  control  it  ;  it  rules  you  utterly  ; 
makes  you  fear  and  cringe  or  arms  you  with 
the  desperation  to  do  terrible  things  —  then 
strangles  you  to  death  in  its  hold.  The  one 
way  to  escape  its  thraldom  is  to  chloroform 
it  before  it  is  grown  up. 


When  there  is  no  other  compensation  re- 
member there  is  always  this  —  that  nothing 
lasts  for  ever. 

D 

The   mania  some  people  have  for  handling 
bout   the   naked   truth,   not  even  veiled  with 
the  traditional  fig  leaf,  is  often  embarrassing. 
42 


frit 


Virtue  comes  very  easy 
to  those  who  possess  no 
attractions. 


I 


43 


"  Take  the  goods  the  gods  provide."  But 
by  some  oversight  there  seems  to  have  been 
no  provision  made  for  some  of  us. 


Pleasures  increase  and  sorrows  decrease  — 
when  shared  by  others. 

B 

Of  course  you  may  be  on  the  road  to  success 
—  but  headed  in  the  wrong  direction. 

ffl 

How  many  women  neglect  their  talents  and 
fritter  away  their  lives  on  trivialities,  expending 
an  energy  that,  rightly  directed,  would  develop 
them  to  their  fullest  capacity. 

IB 

Don't  imagine  that  marriage  is  the  aim  and 
end  of  existence.     It  is  only  the  beginning  - 
too  many  women   begin  to  corrode  with  rust 
when  the  honeymoon  is  over. 

(0 

Falling   in  love   is   much   like   a   contagious 
disease;    if  you  pull  through  the  first  attack, 
with    each    successive    seizure    thereafter,    the 
danger  lessens  until  you  are  finally  immune. 
44 


Nothing  is  impossible  to  a  woman  who 
is  clever  and  pretty. 


45 


In  marriage  select  a  husband  for  what  he  is 
not  rather  than  for  what  he  is. 

Ml 

Never  run  after  any  one  or  anything.  If 
you  will  run,  let  it  be  away  from  them. 

D 

It  is  a  mistake  for  a  woman  to  think  that 
every  man  that  makes  love  to  her  is  in  love  with 
her.  He  is  often  merely  practising  to  keep 
up  his  reputation  for  gallantry  and  expects  her 
to  know  the  rules  of  the  same  or  refuse  to  engage 
in  the  sport. 

ID 

If  you  desire  anything  sufficiently,  it  will 
be  yours. 

ffl 

There  will  always  remain  the  three  most 
desirable  things  that  all  the  riches  of  the  world 
cannot  buy ;  Love,  Youth  and  Genius  —  but 
it  will  buy  a  fairly  good  substitute. 

H 

If  you  want  to  be  happy,  be  a  Cheerful  Phi- 
losopher! Learn  how  to  live  and  how  to  enjoy 
life  without  expecting  too  much  from  your 
friends. 

46 


/  Women  should  cultivate 
charm,  for  it  will  survive 
when  beauty  is  dead. 


\ 


Have  you  ever  noticed,  you 
never  see  a  pretty  fascinating 
woman  wishing  she  were  a  man? 


Men  and  women  who  are  philosophers  are 
those  whose  sensibilities  have  been  burned  out 
by  the  fires  of  a  great  experience  and  whose 
wisdom  is  great  enough  to  keep 
them  from  the  r> 
desire  to  be 
burned  again. 


49 


It  is  a  great  heart  which  is  too  rilled  with 
sweetness  to  hold  the  memory  of  a  wrong. 

HB 

A  woman  is  wise  only  when  she  follows  her 
instinct,  not  her  reason. 

H 

Women  should  know  that  the  faithfulness  of 
their  husbands  depends  largely  upon  their  own 
cleverness. 

n 

How  wearing  it  must  be  to  have  to  live  up 
to  the  reputation  for  a  beauty  or  a  wit. 


When  a  woman  persists  in  mentioning  a 
certain  man's  name,  there  is  little  doubt  as  to 
the  nature  of  her  sentiments. 

B 

To  retain  your  husband's  love  it  is  not  a  ques- 
tion of  how  to  remain  beautiful  —  but  how  to 
remain  interesting. 

a 

A  woman  is  not  logical  and  she  refuses  to 
listen  to  reason  because  she  can  see  no  reason 
for  it. 

5° 


Listen  to  a  man's  protestations  if  you  will 

—  and  thereby  learn  to  know  men ;   but  believe 
them  at  your  peril;    for  what  they  swear  and 
mean  today,  they  swear  and    mean  tomorrow 

—  but  to  another  woman. 

51 


Who  ever  loved  a  woman  who  was  consistent ! 
It  is  the  unexpected  that  charms. 

u 

Often  repentance  is  only  deep  enough  to  last 
until  the  next  strong  temptation  comes. 


A  look  often  accomplishes  more  than  the  most 
eloquent  speech. 

H 

Repentance  is  usually  a  matter  of  having  been 
found  out  —  it  rarely  occurs  before. 

00 

Cultivate  the  blissful  philosophy  to  feel  and 
enjoy  the  present  hour  —  don't  try  to  analyze 
or  think  about  it. 

Hi  * 

Often  a  woman's  sole  reason  for  accepting 
a  man  in  marriage  is  the  fear  that  no  one  else 
will  ask  her.  Do  not  imagine  in  contemplating 
married  couples  that  the  man  was  necessarily 
her  choice  in  the  world. 


Don't  regret  an  experience,  make  each  one 
useful. 

52 


No  one  is   thoroughly 
honest;     each  is   trying 
to  get  more   than  they         , 
give.  / 


Woiran  sends  iorth  all  her  treasure  on  ad- 
venture; she  freights  her  cargo  with  love, 
hope  and  happiness  and  then  throws  in  for  ballast 
her  life  and  soul.  If  it  is  wrecked,  all  is  lost. 

B 

We  always  credit  with  great  discernment  and 
excellent  judgment  the  person  who  finds  us 
beautiful  and  clever. 


A  woman's  charity  usually  takes  the  form 
of  church  fairs,  charity  balls  and  the  making 
of  impossible  flannel  garments  for  little  heathens 
in  the  tropics;  while  the  sweetest  charity  of 
helping  weaker  sisters  keep  the  shining  path  is 
shunned  as  something  contaminating. 


If  you  would  have  love  lavished  upon  you 
—  learn  to  be  independent  of  it. 

D 

Of  all  things  there  is  nothing  so  dead  as  dead 
love. 

n 

Women  prefer  having  any  other  quality 
criticised  than  their  wit  and  beauty;  men  than 
their  courage  and  power  to  captivate. 

54 


If  you  want  to 
keep  love,  fasten  it 
with  a  gossamer 
thread,  not  a  chain  of 
iron. 


In  love  it  is  the  beginning  that  most  delights 
one.  Therefore  one  is  not  surprised  that  some 
make  so  many  beginnings. 


Most  people  turn  to  God  only  when  the  Devil 
has  exhausted  all  their  possibilities  and  no  longer 
takes  an  interest  in  them. 

HB 

The  unfair  laws  of  society  makes  a  woman 
have  to  submit  to  a  cut  from  a  woman  who, 
in  reality,  is  not  fit  to  touch  the  hem  of  her 
garment. 

Vwri 

A  person  without  imagination  makes  a  poor 
lover,  for  that  is  really  all  there  is  to  love. 


' 


Don't  borrow  trouble  —  lend  it. 


Women  know  by  nature  how  to  disguise  their 
emotions.     Men  —  only  by  experience. 

D 

Often  men  sow  seeds  of  the  knowledge  of  love 
—  and  other  men  harvest. 
56 


A  loving  woman  can  make  a  saint  and  a  demi- 
god out  of  what  we  plainly  see  is  very  ordinary 
material. 


57 


We  always  have  a  tender  spot  in  our  heart 
for  our  first  love.  We  feel  so  grateful  to  them 
for  not  having  married  us. 

IB 

Some  men  take  a  distinct  pleasure  in  plowing 
up  the  soul  of  a  woman  merely  to  see  the  quiver- 
ing sensibilities  bleed  and  to  feel  their  own 
brutal  power. 

D 

Men  should  know  that  when  they  attack  a  fort 
they  should  storm  it.  Women  find  it  hard  to 
resist  a  tempestuous  wooing. 

B 

A  renowned  sage  advises  temperance  in  love 
—  Absurd!  Impossible!  He  does  not  know 
the  meaning  of  the  word!  If  it  is  love  it  is  a 
tempest,  a  torrent  and  overwhelms  any  halting 
consideration  of  wisdom.  It  gives  all  and  takes 
all. 

D 

The  keynote  of  love  is  sacrifice.  Real  love 
is  only  happy  in  giving. 

D 

A  beautiful  woman  who  lacks  fascination 
is  like  a  beautiful  flower  that  lacks  perfume. 

58 


t 


A  man  admires  an 
intelligent  woman,  but 
she  is  rarely  the  one  he 
loves ;  for  to  the  woman 
he  loves  he  wants  to 
be  a  tower  of  strength 
and  wisdom. 


59 


In  all  the  disappointments  of  life,  with  all  their 
degrees  of  bitterness,  there  is  never  one  without 
its  compensation.  Often  we  are  too  blinded 
by  grief  or  rage  to  see  it,  but  if  we  look,  it  is 
there  —  they  are  always  side  by  side  and  by 
cultivation  may  blossom  into  a  rarer  treasure 
than  your  lost  Heart's  Desire. 

IB 

Even  Martin  Luther  said,  —  "  Who  loves 
not  woman,  wine  and  song  remains  a  fool  his 
whole  life  long."  And  men  have  willingly  taken 
heed  of  his  wise  precept  and  have  done  all  in 
their  power  to  keep  from  being  that  particular 
kind  of  a  fool,  at  any  rate. 


Love  expands,  develops  and  beautifies  woman 
as  the  sun  on  ripening  fruit. 

n 

There  is  nothing  as  effective  for  retaining 
a  woman's  youth  as  an  occasional  new  love  affair. 

There  are  only  two  unpardonable  sins.  One 
is  being  stupid  —  and  the  other  offending  one's 
sense  of  delicacy. 

60 


A  cynic  is  what  a 
person  is  called  who 
has  the  genius  to  see 
things  as  they  really 


are. 


Not  all  natures  are  capable  of  great  love, 
and  those  who  are  not,  cannot  comprehend 
the  heights  or  depths  reached  by  those  who  are. 


Those  who  expect  other  people  to  make  their 
happiness  are  for  ever  doomed  to  see  it  lie  beyond 
their  reach. 

H 

Laugh  at  the  people  who  criticise  you,  they  are 
only  envious.  Who  wouldn't  rather  be  called 
"  Sly  Minx  "  than  "  Poor  Thing  ?  " 

00 

It  is  man's  nature  to  wish  to  be  a  conqueror  and 
woman's  to  surrender;  but  remember  that  the 
harder  it  is  to  take  a  citadel  the  more  carefully 
it  is  guarded  and  more  keenly  appreciated. 
Even  though  she  is  longing  to  capitulate,  a 
wise  woman  is  never  too  easily  or  quickly  won. 

H) 

Woman's  virtue  is  in  greater  danger  from 
opportunity  than  from  desire. 


To  let  a  man  be  absolutely  certain  of  you  is  a 
mistake  no  daughter  of  Eve  should  ever  be  fool- 
ish enough  to  commit. 

62 


MCNOCfr 


Don't  be  so  foolish  as  to 
wish  to  cultivate  your  mem- 
ory; it  is  your  forgettery 
that  you  will  most  need  in  life. 


A  little  jealousy  feeds  love,  while  much  jealousy 
kills  it. 

svi 

Often  the  most  erring  women  have  beautiful 
qualities  of  soul,  and  their  influence  for  good 
is  incomparably  greater  than  their  cold,  self- 
centered  sisters  whose  virtue  is  unquestioned 
but  whose  natures  repel  rather  than  attract. 

IB 

With  women  love  is  the  supreme  motive  of 
life  —  with  men,  never.  Man  never  sacrifices 
his  ambition,  his  career;  but  a  woman  glories 
in  any  sacrifice,  the  greater,  the  more  eagerly, 
when  she  loves. 

n 

A  man  is  always  delighted  to  have  his  wife 
admired  by  others,  so  long  as  she  does  not  show 
an  equal  delight. 

IB 

Even  the  best  of  women  cannot  help  feeling 
flattered  when  a  man  commits  a  sin  because  of 
love  for  her. 


Isn't  it  a  pity  that  wicked  people  are  apt  to 
be  so  much  more  entertaining  and  attractive 
than  the  very  good  ones? 
64 


Love  is  a  fragile  flower 
which  can  be  revived  by  a 
sigh  —  killed  by  a  breath. 


There  is  only  one  thing 
in  woman  that  Time 
leaves  untouched,  and 
that  is  her  vanity. 


There  is  no  standing  still.  All  things  must 
increase  or  decrease;  be  it  love,  power,  intel- 
lect or  wisdom  —  and  of  all,  that  is  most  true 
of  love. 


Married  life  will  be  happy  only  on  one  condi- 
tion: that  the  man  is  manly  and  the  woman, 
womanly. 

D 

What  a  terrible  thing  to  have  missed  love! 
How  many  lives  fade  and  pass  out  without 
having  known  the  exquisite  joy  and  sorrow, 
the  pain  and  rapture  of  great  love.  They  have 
endured  life  —  not  lived  it. 


Don't  fall  into  the  habit  of  stagnation.  There 
is  danger  of  taking  root  and  turning  into  a  vege- 
table —  fill  every  moment  to  its  capacity  with 
an  interest  in  life. 

H 

Happiness  and  success  in  life  depend  more 
on  one's  reputation  than  on  one's  conduct. 

0 

Fickleness  is  a  virtue !  Nothing  is  so  tiresome 
as  the  word  for  ever!  One  would  tire  of  the  Angel 
Gabriel  himself  if  one  saw  him  every  morning 
at  breakfast. 

IB 

Woman  in  the  abstract  is  a  fool;  and  exists 
chiefly  to  demonstrate  to  man  the  Lord's  sense 
of  humour. 

68 


When  a  woman  grants 
the  first  favour,  the  man 
has  only  to  wait. 


Experience  is  a  good  teacher  if  it  is  your 
own  experience,  no  one's  else  will  do.  Counsel 
is  of  small  benefit  compared  with  the  hard 
knocks  of  life. 

n 

Poets,  artists  and  other  geniuses  of  that  class, 
whose  imagination  is  the  motif  of  their  gift, 
should  not  be  criticised  for  fickleness;  their 
natures  are  so  various  that  they  exhaust  the 
usual  woman's  potentialities  for  attraction  in 
a  short  time. 

If  you  want  to  be  happy  you  must  first  learn 
to  be  blind,  deaf  —  and  even  dumb  on  occasion. 

m 

All  women  should  be  chloroformed  who  are 
no  longer  able  to  love  or  inspire  love. 

D 

Impossible  opportunity  is  what  saves  the 
virtue  of  many  people. 


Don't  hate  any  one  or  any  thing.  If  you 
could  only  realize  how  much  you  hurt  your- 
self and  how  not  at  all  any  one  else,  you  would 
never  waste  energy  in  that  futile  manner. 

70 


Obstacles    are   not   the    hindrances,   but   the 
promoters  of  love. 


With  some,  their  illusions  are  like  the  sun; 
when  they  are  gone,  the  world  itself  is  hidden 
in  blackness. 

BB 

Money  does  not  buy  happiness ;  but  it  buys  a 
pretty  good  substitute  when  it  provides  us  with 
the  means  to  divert  the  mind  from  thinking. 


The  gift  of  a  remarkable  ability  for  getting 
out  of  scrapes  is  a  monstrous  boulder  in  the  path 
of  virtue. 

n 

The  heart  of  a  flirt  is  sometimes  tender  enough, 
and  is  often  a  happy  resting  place  for  even  an 
exacting  man's  heart  —  for  Nature  has  given 
her  a  capacity  that  argues  well  for  his  happiness, 
if  only  he  convinces  her  of  his  mastery. 


Take   all   possible  for   the   present  moment; 
it  is  really  all  you  have.     Yesterday  is  gone. 
Tomorrow  is  tomorrow  —  therefore  doubtiul  — 
and  remember  a  pleasure  postponed  is  a  pleasure 
lost. 

KB 

A  kiss  often  teaches  much.    Where  wisdom 
is  bliss  'tis  folly  to  be  ignorant. 

72 


When  a  woman  falls  it  is  most  often  because 
of  her  desire  to  please  the  one  she  loves  —  not 
because  of  her  own  desire. 


73 


/ 

More  men  have  been  charmed  by  varying 
moods  —  by  flashing  changes  and  retracted  sur- 
renders, than  ever  were  by  a  smothering  deluge 
of  unchanging  love  and  devotion. 

BB 

Some  women  seem  to  take  this  world  for  a 
kitchen,  and  see  nothing  beyond  its  walls ;  others 
take  it  for  a  convent;  some  find  it  a  gorgeous 
theatre  where  there  is  always  a  change  of  bill 
and  a  brilliant  audience;  while  the  wise  ones 
see  it  a  perfumed  garden  where  they  may  pluck 
from  it  at  will  a  wonderful  Rose  of  Love  —  a 
garden  where  blooms  the  flowers  of  Heart's 
Desire  —  and  at  night  is  bathed  in  a  mist  of 
Dreams  Come  True. 

n 

Most  people  would  rather  be  given  criticism 
than  indifference. 

IB 

Women  are  enthusiasts,  extremists,  and  are 
capable  of  great  heroism  if  their  heart  or  their 
vanity  is  appealed  to  —  not  their  reason. 


A  man  or  a  woman  who  boasts  of  their  con- 
quests are  almost  always  those  who  are  no 
longer  able  to  make  any. 

74 


Time  is  a  great 
healer  and  will 
finally  fade  the 
greatest  pain  into 
a  tender  memory. 


If  you  are  ill  and  melancholy,  lock  yourself 
in  a  double  barred  room  for  iear  you  may  be 
tempted  to  inflict  yourself  on  some  one  who  is 
struggling  to  dispose  of  a  large  consignment 
of  the  same  commodity. 

H 

Be  sure  there  is  no  person  however  good, 
but  has  their  bad  streak;  and  no  person  how- 
ever bad,  but  has  many  good  ones. 

H 

Isn't  it  amusing  how  many  men  complain  of 
their  own  poor  judgment!  They  are  the  active 
agents  in  matrimony,  but  when  their  selection 
turns  out  unsatisfactory,  blame  any  one  but 
themselves. 

n 

That  woman  who  permits  a  man  to  be  abso- 
lutely sure  of  her  has  removed  the  supports 
from  her  house  of  cards. 

IB 

Beware  of  the  woman  who  is  always  ready 
to  blacken  the  character  of  another.  She  is 
usually  doing  it  to  distract  attention  from  her 
own. 

76 


Forbidden  fruit  is  dear  —  it  is  not  worth  the 
price  asked  for  it. 

77 


There  is  no  love  however  great  that  does  not 
have  its  days  of  disillusionment  and  disappoint- 
ment, but  if  it  has  been  real  love  it  is  never 
really  forgotten.  A  tenderness  survives  that 
illumines  the  memories  of  past  blissful  hours 
with  a  mystic  glow  that  life's  realities  can  never 
wholly  quench. 

D 

A  man  grows  very  very  tired  of  a  woman  who 
is  monotonously  sweet  of  temper,  smiling  of 
face  and  angelic  of  heart.  A  bit  of  a  vixen 
seems  a  relief  and  does  not  make  him  feel  so 
ashamed  of  his  own  shortcomings. 

S3 

The  education  that  experience  gives  the  heart 
usually  incapacitates  it  for  holding  illusions. 

H 

Act  on  the  first  advice  of  a  woman,  not  on 
the  second. 

B) 

It  is  absence  that  proves  love. 

BB 

She  who  is  never  guilty  of  follies  is  not  so  wise 
as  she  imagines. 

78 


Even  though  the  past  experience  may 
have  been  bitter,  the  prospect  of  a  new  one 
always  fascinates. 


As  long  as  your  loved  one  is  occupied  do  not 
worry  about  his  faithfulness. 

00 

Many  find  happiness  elusive,  always  lying 
beyond  their  reach.  But  it  is  better  to  be  always 
travelling  toward  the  Elysian  Vale  than  ever  to 
arrive  and  find  it  actually  not  there. 

10 

To  be  overestimated  is  the  only  real  appre- 
ciation. 

u 

It  is  a  wise  woman  who  never  lets  a  man  know 
she  is  wiser  than  he. 

BB 

When  an  old  coquette  has  turned  her  back  on 
the  follies  of  this  world,  how  intolerant  she  is 
of  laughing  Youth  who  has  just  begun  inves- 
tigating. 

B 

Do  what  she  will  a  woman  cannot  escape 
the  consequences  of  breaking  the  laws  of  so- 
ciety. 

D 

The  person  we  feel  the  bitterest  towards,  is 
the  one  we  have  wronged  the  most. 
80 


Aim  at  something.    Be 
sure    that   some   one    be- 
lieves  in  you.    Use    that 
for  the  first  stepping-stone 
and    mount 
to  any  height 
you  desire. 


Make  up  your  mind  that  you  get  nothing  in 
this  world  that  you  do  not  pay  for.  Consider 
the  thing  you  desire  and  the  price  you  must 
pay;  if  it  is  worth  it,  pay  and  enjoy,  and  don't 
cry  over  your  bargain.  Sometimes  it  seems 
at  first  that  you  are  getting  something  for  noth- 
ing —  but  be  sure  that  you  never  do  —  that  will 
be,  perchance,  the  thing  you  pay  most  dearly 
for. 

B 

Love  will  die  sooner  from  surfeit  than  from 
starvation. 

ID 

It  is  the  multiplied,  oft  recurring  little  wounds 
that  kill  love  —  not  the  great  one. 

H 

The  saddest  thing  in  the  world  is  to  hear  one 
say  —  "I  have  lost  my  illusions." 


The  only  way  to  keep  from  being  disappointed 
is  not  to  expect  things ;  then  what  you  get  from 
the  world  comes  as  a  delightful  surprise  and 
your  cheerful  view  of  life  is  ten  fold  increased. 


Gratitude  will  increase  friendship;   but  is  apt 
to  kill  love. 

82 


Happiness  in  marriage  is  a  thing  that  can  be 
retained  if  the  avenues  for  its  escape  are  care- 
fully guarded.    It  is  an  existence  which  is  apt 
to  become  monotonous  if  one  is  not  always 
on  the  alert  to  discover  new  fuel  by  which  the 
flame  may  be  kept  burning,  therefore,    it  is 
wiser  not  to  be  too  profligate  of  your  ardour 


in  the  beginning  lest  surfeit 
cause  ennui.  When  there  are 
no  more  mysteries  or  delicious 
surprises  the  little  god  grows 
dejected  and  discouraged. 


Whatever  type  of  a  wo- 
man a  man  marries  he   is 
apt  to  spend  the  rest  of  his 
life  wishing  he  had  chosen 
a  different  kind.     He  wants 
a  variety  of  personalities  to 
fill  a  variety   of  needs  of 
his    many    sided    nature.     The 
difficulty  being  that  women  are 
apt  to  think  one  type  of  individ- 
uality is  sufficient  —  when   the 
fact  is  —  he    demands   a  com- 
bination   of    all    the    types    to 
minister  to  his  varying  moods. 


A  wise  woman  cultivates  the  art  of  listening. 
It  is  often  a  more  fascinating  accomplishment 
than  that  of  talking  well. 


It  is  a  positive  relief  and  really  a  virtue  to 
be  a  bit  devilish  at  times  —  it  gets  on  one's 
nerves  always  balancing  a  halo  on  the  back 
of  one's  head. 

B 

If  a  man  succeeds  in  interesting  a  woman 
it  is  only  a  short  step  before  he  has  won  more. 

u 

Women  will  suffice  women  for  friends  in  the 
every-day  events  of  life;  but  in  a  great  crisis  it 
is  only  the  friendship  of  a  man  that  will  sustain 
her. 

H 

Those  who  know  women  best,  love  them  most. 


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